New Moon In Libra – Who’s Afraid Of Virginia Woolf?

On October 21st, 2025, we have a New Moon at 28° Libra.

The New Moon is square Pluto and Jupiter, and opposite Chiron. This Grand Cross New Moon is bound to push all our buttons, prompting us to re-evaluate who we are, especially in the context of our close relationships (Libra).

This is a pressure test New Moon that raises a fundamental “identity” question: what’s truly me (Sun/Moon), what’s my wounds (Chiron), what’s other people’s narratives (Jupiter), and what’s being shaped by forces outside my control(Pluto)?

We are NOT other people’s narratives, the beliefs and cultural scripts we grow up with (Jupiter) – yet, we are shaped by them. We are the products of our times.

If we were born 20 years ago, we would have probably internalized different ideals of success and beauty. If we were born 100 years ago, we might have had different views on marriage, gender, or morality.

What’s important to us is shaped by the world we live in – yet it’s not who we are.

We are not our wounds (Chiron) – yet they live at the core of our being, drawing us back to their gravity in ways we can’t quite explain. We don’t want to go there, because we don’t want to be triggered. We don’t want to face the pain.
Yet this avoidance means we take some actions and not others; it means we might hold back from risks, stay in situations that feel safe, or repeat patterns just to avoid the sting of the primal wound.

Our life is shaped by our wound – yet that’s not who we are.

And there is Pluto. The unavoidable cycles of life and death. The raw, unnegotiable power of nature. And while we all play by Pluto’s rules, we are NOT Pluto.

New Moon In Libra – Spit By 2

Life can be a lot to handle. We are drawn to relationships not only because of the psychological mirror they provide, not only because of the union that creates life (romantic) or resources (business).

Relationships are also an emotional buffer. Sometimes, to avoid all these overwhelming feelings, we find refuge in our relationships. In 2, the intensity is split, is shared, and gets a bit more diffuse.

Our close relationships can be our greatest catalyst for growth – but also our most comfortable traps, because it’s easy to get busy in a relationship.

It’s easy to stay distracted when you’re not by yourself – when there’s no echoing silence that forces you to go within and face what needs to be faced.

Many times, the very relationships that are supposed to liberate us to walk our own path become a carbon-copy of the dynamics we experienced early in life – our parents, family, or other role models.

We’re drawn to repeat the same dynamics, like in an endless loop, because this is the only thing we know. And what we know – however painful or limiting – is safer than what we don’t know.

New Moon in Libra – Who’s Afraid Of Virginia Woolf

“Who’s Afraid Of Virginia Wolf” is a play on “Who’s afraid of the big bad wolf” but with the intellectual, emotionally complex Virginia Woolf substituted for the monster.

In the play – and the movie with the same name – the characters construct elaborate fantasies and illusions in their marriage to cope with disappointment and pain.

The core psychological theme is: are you afraid of facing the truth?

“Virginia Woolf” symbolizes emotional honesty, and the raw – and sometimes brutal – realities of adult life and relationships. The characters are afraid of dropping their illusions and confronting who they really are and what their lives have become.

Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf becomes a code for: who’s afraid to live without constructed narratives? Who’s afraid of the responsibility that comes with real self-knowledge?

Sometimes just a shift in perspective can turn the same relationship that feels like a trap into a sacred playground – a space where we can see each other for who we are, grow as we were meant to grow, and become who we were meant to become.

Because it’s not the relationship that’s the problem – it’s our narratives.

It’s our unwillingness to face the truth that keeps us imprisoned in them.

When we are run by narratives – the society’s, our own wounded self’s, or the world’s as a whole – we go through life blindfolded. We move from one relationship to the next, but the cycle keeps repeating, the same scenario replaying again and again, because of course, it’s never “them” – it’s always, and has always been, about “us”.

Not in the sense of who’s right or wrong – and not even from the perspective of whether we should be in a relationship or not – but in the sense that our own awareness is the only thing we truly have control over.

The New Moon in Libra invites us to look at ourselves and life as it is – to have the existential courage to cut through outdated narratives and meet what’s real, without the safety net of illusion.